What are you thinking?

Hello everyone. I want to write about something today that has been bothering me for some time. What are husbands thinking? I tend to watch couple interactions on a regular basis because God has given me a passion for the man’s role in the relationship. This can go for married or unmarried. I constantly see men treat their girlfriends or wives like dirt by the way they talk to them, their actions towards them as well as making their priorities more important than hers.

This picture above is just a small list of how a husband should be. Even if you do not have God in your life, most of this list is still on point. If you love the woman you married, then you should be doing these things. If you do not have God in your life, that is the first thing you are doing wrong because you cannot truly love her if you don’t know love. 1 John 4:8 The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love. So if you do not have a relationship with God let’s talk. Go to wethechurchministries.org and contact us. We would love to chat with you.

We are called as husbands to carry quite a bit in the marriage. Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Stop talking to them like they are beneath you! Stop putting them down, even if you think it’s a joke its not! So many women have self-esteem issues and a husband that degrades them makes their insecurities even worse! It tells us in the bible to encourage one another.

The verse above sets the example for who we are called to be as well. Jesus gave Himself up for the church (us) out of love. So He put our lives before His own. If that is the example then why is it so hard for husbands to comprehend? PUT YOUR WIFE BEFORE YOURSELF! Put them, their needs and their priorities before our own. If both of your cars need to be fixed, get hers done first then work on yours. If she needs money for the kids that comes before the latest video game. I am not saying neglect ourselves or our lives, but do what they need first. If you love God and love your wife, they come first! Clearly stated in the bible Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. The bible states it plain and simple.

I know some of you are going to read this and say “but you have no clue what my wife does to me, how she treats me. She never puts me first”. I will say to you the same thing I say to men I journey with through their walks as a pastor, the same thing I say to my kids time and time again when they fight and say well they blah, blah, blah… We don’t have to answer for the words, attitudes or actions of others!!! We will only have to answer for our own! So live by Jesus’ example. Love your wife before yourself. Put her needs (spiritual, emotional and physical) first!

Be Blessed, Dave