It saddens me that so often today I hear the phrase “marriage is just a piece of paper”. When did we lose sight of just how precious it is when two people vow to spend each and every day together through good times and bad, in sickness and health until death do they part?! The word LOVE is thrown around like it’s just any other word with no meaning behind it.
Since I was a little girl the words “marriage” and “love” had always seemed so special to me. Just like most little girls, I dreamed of the day I would stand in front of my family and friends and vow to love and honor the man I would spend the rest of my life with.
I am by no means saying marriage is easy. I was married at the age of 19 and I thought I knew what it meant to be in love and what marriage was all about. Truthfully that marriage was just a stepping stone that lead me to my soulmate.
Of course it has not been all rainbows and butterflies. Marriage is HARD! Dave and I had a very rough start that almost lead to divorce at only 1 month in. We both not only had to learn how to live together and blend our lives but I also had 2 children that Dave accepted as his own when he married me.
It’s hard enough learning how to be a couple in every day life let alone a ready-made family of 4. It was an adjustment for sure.
We went to a seminar called Love and Respect, and I believe that was the turning point in our marriage. We had both just officially brought God in at the center of our marriage, and the seminar helped teach us how men and women are different. We learned what makes each of us tick and how we look at things through very different lenses.
Marriage is not about one person but two people. Two people who deserve to be equally heard and appreciated. Marriage is not a competition of who does more or who works harder but what you both do to help each other.
When you stand before God and vow to love each other, there are NO EXCEPTIONS! You are promising to be committed to your spouse first and foremost. Nothing comes before them other than God.
I often hear people say Dave and I have a “perfect marriage”. FYI- there is no such thing. What we do have is a God-centered marriage and a equal partnership. As cliche as it may sound, Dave is my best friend. He is the one I can tell anything to and the one I can cry to and even yell at when I am mad. He doesn’t try to fix me (all the time) but instead he figures out if I need my problem solved or if I just need a hug. He will help me around the house regardless if he is tired or worked all day because that’s what a partnership is.
We put each other’s needs before our own. And when marriages/relationships struggled or even fell apart due to corona and all the time spent together, our marriage only grew stronger. We do better together than apart.
I am not saying this to brag by any means. I am sharing this to show everyone that marriage can be AMAZING! It will never be perfect, we are all works in progress! Let’s show the new generations what marriage used to be like back when my grandparents were married. 63 years they were married before my grandfather passed away. Unfortunately that is unheard of now.
We need to make marriage not seem like “just a piece of paper”. Even if you are not yet married, I am sure at one point you will plan on it and I hope our blog helps you be prepared and not scared.
There is so much negativity in this world and believe me, it makes it that much easier to have a partner to walk through life with in the good times and the bad.
I personally have such a passion for love and relationships and especially marriage and my hope is that this blog helps anyone who is already in love or looking for love.